It has been a little less than a year since my last post. In that time I have had my 5th child, repainted my kitchen and den, acquired a new client, and kept my Grave’s disease in remission (so far so good!). Of course there has been much more in between centered around my family including chorus concerts, dance competitions, preparing for preschool, inconsistent potty training, breastfeeding, supporting my husband coaching Fil-Am youth basketball, and supporting my husband and his new side business hustle. A mom’s work is never done, but it is one of the most significant roles in our society. I do feel, and have felt for a very long time even before I had kids, that being a mother is my primary vocation. I’m sure many of my fellow mothers feel the same way. However, let’s also remember that part of this vocation is to show our children the entirety of our purpose. It’s to serve in multiple ways with all of our God-given talents.
Especially as moms, we sometimes struggle with the question “What am I going to do with my life?”. Some of us haven’t had a chance to get started on a career outside of the home because of starting a family. Some of us have had pitstops from our careers to tend to family. Still for some of you life has thrown several surprises your way to start or continue a career. Whatever your path, it’s important to recognize that your ultimate goal in life is to develop your purpose. This purpose is not a destination. It isn’t a single job, a single career, or a single field. It’s the gift that God has designed for you to be and to give in service to the world. This gift will have multiple forms in your life.
Are you struggling with this idea of finding your purpose? I want to tell you what I am constantly telling myself every day–It’s ok. I’m not an expert at feeling self-assured on all measures, but I do want to offer some advice that helps me to keep going with the satisfaction that what I’m doing is amazing. It’s easy, if you are like me and at home with the kids, to sometimes feel like you may be underestimated, tired, and overwhelmed. Here are some thoughts I want you to remember:
Don’t compare yourself to what you think others expect of you.
First off, own your decisions and choices. There are reasons why you are doing what you are doing. Never live your life according to what you think others think you should be doing. You are the only one who knows where you should be. You are the only one who hears what God whispers to your heart.
Carve out something for yourself.
This can be a career. It can be volunteer work. It can be acting as a supportive friend. It can be reading a book. It can be a hobby. Make sure you don’t fall into the rut of having your day only full of household duties such as cooking, cleaning, carpooling, and grocery shopping. Do a little something each day that is just for you. You will be the best role model for your kids if they see that you have individual talents, skills, and interests that fall outside of household duties. And I want to differentiate household duties from mom duties. Household duties are things that anyone besides you can do. Mom duties are those things that only YOU can provide: providing love and caring; offering advice and counsel; building character and confidence in your kids; laughing together, etc. These things are irreplacable and are the ultimate model of honor to your kids!
Don’t forget to dream.
No matter what your age, don’t forget to reach for something new and more. This can be anything–from owning your own own business to learning how to bake chocolate cookies (yup…that has been my mission this summer!). Your aspirations are God’s way of hinting to you of new challenges that are part of your purpose. If it feels right pursuing, you are on the right track with what He’s trying to convey to you. Life is too short to not listen!
So I am completely a work in progress, and I’m cool with that. My journey is going to make multiple twists and turns…and even get surprisingly rerouted. However, this is the journey that I know God is putting me on. I’m putting my faith in it. I know he is making a way for me even when I don’t see a way. He’s doing the same for all of us!
Can I get an Amen?